# How to say “we're done” in Chinese

> The mildest way to say “we're done” in Chinese is 我们不合适 (wǒ men bù hé shì), “we're not right for each other”. The strongest is 老死不相往来 (lǎo sǐ bù xiāng wǎng lái), “never see each other again, till we die”. Here are all 5, ranked mild to strong, with pinyin and when to use each one.

Source: https://lanlanchinese.com/how-to-say/were-done-in-chinese (updated 2026-10-18)

1. **我们不合适** (wǒ men bù hé shì) (strength 1/5): we're not right for each other. The polite exit.
2. **我们分手吧** (wǒ men fēn shǒu ba) (strength 2/5): let's break up. Clear and final.
   Heard in a real video: 要不我们分手吧？ "Maybe we should break up?" (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jtysgnM8vVM&t=220s)
3. **别联系我了** (bié lián xì wǒ le) (strength 3/5): don't contact me again. Cold.
4. **拉黑** (lā hēi) (strength 4/5): block (lit. pull into the black). Blocked on wechat. It's over.
5. **老死不相往来** (lǎo sǐ bù xiāng wǎng lái) (strength 5/5): never see each other again, till we die. An old line from laozi. Used on exes today.

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